Primary Research: Relationships and dating – past, present, future

By Isabel

For my interview I wanted to delve into the topic I had been investigating all semester ‘love’. I chose to centre my investigation on the viewpoints other young individuals had towards relationships and dating in terms of a past, present, as well as future context. For this investigation I spoke to Luisa, a university student, currently in her late 20’s like myself.

For the first part of the interview to break the ice, I asked Luisa a generic romanticised question that has been asked from time and time again – Do you believe that we each have a soul mate? She began to respond by saying how some people seem to “fit” with each other more than others. I also really resonated with her response on how she viewed love towards other individuals as a “manifestation” over time, determined my different life stages.

We then began to discuss the influence of the past on changing societal values. She began to say how 1950’s was a place “centered around gender roles and creating the perfect family life” and how nowadays this progressed significantly, “women are not expected to be married in their early 20’s and are encouraged to empower themselves and find fulfillment through their career before settling down to a family.”

As we delved into today’s society we progressed towards digital technologies, especially dating apps such Tinder. She begin to mention how much it has changed the dating scene for young individuals, as the apps itself ultimately “filters possible matches according to interests, locations, mutual friends and age.” She held grave concerns towards the selection process, as the appearance on these online profiles is one of the key determining factors for attracting others online. Which can immediately set a “negative first impression” and be immediately disregarded as an “option” amongst a pool of other people.

In terms of the future of dating and relationships, Luisa was pretty confident in saying how she believes that “dating within the next few decades could possibly stay generally static as there is only so far technology and humans can be pushed before society ridicules the means and motives. “ She was also optimistic towards traditional forms of dating taking place, “traditional way of meeting people in real life and through other friends will never end.” However, she also mentioned how technological advancements had the potential to push future dating and relationship barriers, further revolutionizing the ways in which humans are “communicating” and “finding people” within an online and possible “virtual” spectrum. She ended the interview by sharing thoughts how the preconceived ideologies we have from today’s society, will continue to evolve and manifest in the future. Making the norm of “less serious relationships and settling down” a plausible possibility of the future.

It was really insightful to gain a different perspective on quite a challenging topic.  As throughout all our schooling we as young individuals have been subjected to standardise teaching approaches, which rarely create avenues to have open discussions on thought provoking societal issues such as dating and relationships. However, through the relationships we are surrounded by and the experiences we share, all have all have the potential in shaping our viewpoints of a possible future, as we ultimately “determine our own futures.”


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